I wasn’t going to post today, at least not more than the Motivation In March quote when THIS happened…
I know this is something that women get asked everyday but yesterday was the first time it’s happened to me. And I’ll be honest, it feels like shit. Straight up SHIT. (Sorry Mom, no filter today!)
I was having a great Friday – got in a workout, spent some time working from Starbucks, delicious lunch at home, and a free iced coffee I was enjoying while taking a work break to walk around my neighborhood. I took a quick glance at Instagram and had to do a double take. I couldn’t quite believe what I was seeing…
That was the outfit I wore to my cousin’s rehearsal dinner last weekend and it was an outfit that I felt GREAT in. And when I followed it up with this killer red dress for the wedding on Saturday, I was feeling gorgeous! …until this moment.
Now don’t get me wrong. I KNOW I don’t look pregnant, fat or anything of the sort BUT that doesn’t make those words hurt any less.
WHY is it that people think that’s an OK question to ask someone?
WHY is it that even as women we feel it’s OK to ask?
WHY is it that women feel it necessary to bring other women down?
I’m not going to say that was this girls motive because I don’t know what her motive was and I don’t know why she thought that was appropriate to ask me. I would love to sit here and say her comment didn’t get to me, but it did.
As I finished walking home I found myself fighting back the tears. I was texting with a few friends and reminding myself of how healthy, happy and beautiful I am. I was reminding myself not to let one person’s stupid comment affect me. But I will be honest, once I got home, put my coffee down and took off my sunglasses, I shed a few tears. My heart was hurting. But not just for me, for any woman who has ever been asked that question and felt like SHIT after.
With that, here’s a PSA friends…
IMPORTANT PSA: Never, I repeat, NEVER ask a woman if she's expecting!
— Katie Arnold (@talkless_saymor) March 21, 2014
There’s no more fitting quote for today…
Have you ever been asked that question before?
How did you respond?