I was having a conversation with someone the other week, when I started talking about how some of the thoughts I had are probably fairly selfish.
I enjoy my time alone. I enjoy being able to do what I want, when I want. I don’t want to feel pressured or guilted into hanging out with someone. I like to go to bed early and wake up early. I prioritize my health with the food that I eat and daily workouts.
She stopped me in my tracks. “What if we change how you’re referring to these things? How about you call it self care, instead of being selfish, because that’s exactly what it is.”
Selfish: devoted to or caring only for oneself
Self care: care of the self
I think it’s easy to see how we can get confused and mixed up between the two, but as a single girl with no children or pets to care for, it’s okay that the decisions I make are for myself. My history shows how when the opportunity presents itself, I am a caregiver and I often put the needs, wants and desires of others in front of my own; in fact, in those moments, I often struggle to find the balance of including self care in my daily routine.
But there is a difference.
I know “self care” has become such a buzz word in the last couple years, but I do think it’s important to make sure we are all giving ourselves some time for us; some time to put our feet up, relax, or do something that makes our hearts and souls happy and fulfilled; something that allows us to take the stress that life constantly throws at us, and find a way to break free from it. Those moments are us choosing to be selfish, they’re us choosing to care for ourselves, mentally, physically and emotionally.
Today, I just want you to think about that for a bit and really let it sink in…
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How do you take part in self care?